Husband and wife are two wheels of the cart. There are eight types of marriage. Swayambhar, Competition, Arya Social, Court, Love Marriage, Ashram Marriage, Sanatani, Wearing Garland
Eight types of marriages were prevalent in earlier times. The first is – Swayambhar, in which the girl herself chose her groom from among those invited. The second was the competition, in which a competition was held. The girl was married to the one who fulfilled that condition. In ancient times there were warriors. No woman used to go to the wedding, because the robbers used to loot. There were swords. There used to be a path through the forest. The baraati people used to carry swords and bring the girl in marriage. Now the boy doesn’t even know why he is holding the sword. Then instruments and drums were played, because they used to beat drums in the happiness of coming back victorious. The third was the fair marriage. Raj people, sarpanch people etc used to say that those who want to get married should come. The bride and groom used to come prepared. The kings used to match boys and girls and get them married. Those who could not get it, used to return home disappointed. If he could not bear it, he would have committed suicide. For this reason this fair marriage was stopped. Then there used to be Gandharva marriages, which are called love marriages. Even now they happen. Fifth group marriages were held. Acharyas, kings used to bless the bride and groom and get them married together. Sixth, marriages took place in religious places. Marriage was done according to Vedic rituals after performing the seventh Yagya. Eighth, the gurus used to get it done by wearing jaimala.
This marriage is not just a physical relationship. It is also an ideological relationship. This is not trivial. That’s why it was also celebrated as a religious ritual. On that day both the husband and wife make a resolution that from today onwards our resolutions will be the same, our needs will be the same. Whatever you like, we will also like it. Both are devoted to each other. Both merge into each other.
In Hinduism, there is a custom of marriage only once. There is no divorce in this. A woman loses her light after giving birth to a child. That’s why don’t cheat with this. Don’t leave this one and go to someone else.
Some girls don’t get married, then hypocrites take advantage of them. Somewhere there is a fault of Jalpir and somewhere there is a fault of ghosts. Many girls come like this. I want to say that you should not get involved in these things. Let me give an example. A girl was brought to me, said that she is not getting married. There is no superficial flaw. I saw the girl. She was fat. The appearance was also not good. I said that nowadays the number of girls is very high. Boys have less. So naturally many girls will not get a groom. Then on top of that the boy needs a heroine. So don’t fall into the trap of hypocrites. They would like to spoil your devotion.
But nowadays sin from the female side has increased a lot. Now it will increase further. Be careful tomorrow. You don’t know how closely I know the society. Because many stories come to me everyday. I give example. I got a marriage done. Later the girl went to her maternal home. The boys got worried. I asked the girl what’s the matter, why are you not going. She said that it is black. I said go quietly. Had to think about this earlier. What is this ?
Many times one have to get divorced after getting married itself. You think
Let me give one more example. A girl reached the court for divorce. The judge said that you go home now. The boys don’t want a divorce. We’ll see if there’s a problem. She said no, just want a divorce. Give me 15 lakhs. Judge Sahib said that the court is asking you to leave the divorce for now. Go home now Will see if there is any problem after this. He didn’t agree. The judge said that he does not have that much money. There are poor people. She said no, there is money. Now his father has retired so he has received money. There is money in the house. The judge got angry and said that he has kept the hard-earned money to give you.
That is, nowadays all this is going on in the society. Be alert. The girl marries. Then later she takes the money and leaves with her lover.
Just look at the example of Seema Haider. Came to India with her Facebook friend with 4 children. Didn’t think about my husband. This is the intoxication of work. That Haider was saying that my children should be returned to me.
You avoid these things.
Do check your children’s phones to see what they are doing. I am saying that friend is fraud. Friendship is a hoax. You avoid One’s wife was complaining. She said that he had eloped with his friend’s wife. He also has 2 children. Come for the sake of the children. That means she was ready to adopt even then. Was forced Nowadays all this is going on from both the sides. Girls are more entangled in this. You check if your children are not involved in Instagram, on Facebook, on dating sites. You must check.
This is western culture. There is no social life outside. The child does not know who his father is.
Now we have a rule here that one woman is celibate. That is, don’t go to the other side. The same rule is for women also that they should not go towards other men. That’s why we are also social reformers.
article on marriages and divorce by satguru Madhu Param Hans Ji Maharaj
